Sorrow: Is There a Storm in Your Heart?
When someone inflicts pain, it changes you deeply. It creates a cellular memory.
At times, your body responds to this memory as if the event were happening now.
Knowing sorrow is to experience it. The more experience you have with it, the more you know it – inside and out. Some of this is internal.
When you know it, you are getting to the heart of the matter.
What to do?
Now is a time to grow. Evolution does not come skating in.
No sirree. It rides in on despair and loneliness.
It’s time to go in another direction so you can be stronger – more resilient. You are transformed.
You will evolve!
How?
Dance – Scream – Roll around on the floor – Write – Beat Drums – Journal – Draw pictures – Run – Change jobs – Move away – Apologize
DO THIS:
Move on
MEDITATION:
This meditation focuses on making your coping easier and more effective if you are under severe stress.
Find a comfortable and safe place to sit. Select a place where you will not be disturbed. When you are in this safety zone, settle into the quiet where you can feel positive and relaxed. This is your sanctuary.
Turn on some healing music. Light a candle. Fire up some incense. Do whatever makes you feel calmer. You may enjoy lighting a Himalayan salt lamp.
Now get comfortable. You may prefer a chair or a mat on the floor; whatever works best for you.
Breathe slowly, calmly and deeply. Breathe deeply – into your heart. Breathe into those places needing healing. Breathe healing and positive energies into your deepest self.
As you exhale, release negativity, stress, fear, and anything that needs to go.
Develop a pattern: breathe out to release negativity and pain.
Breathe in deeply as you receive the wisdom of your heart and your light. Breathe the wisdom of your being.
Let this breath pattern lead you to an inner sanctuary.
Open your eyes to find yourself in a tranquil place where you feel secure and strong. Your surroundings make you feel comfortable. Notice the details of this space.
Notice what this space is like. What does it look like? What is the temperature in this space?
Notice everything. Include the smells, noises, colors, textures, and shapes of this space. Examine everything about this space.
Possibly this space is from your past. Possibly it is one you are creating for your own special healing needs.
Whatever this space, you are in control of this sanctuary. Take time now to create this place just for you and your healing needs.
Notice the areas and objects that represent safety, security, and peace. This space is your refuge. Explore it now. Immerse yourself in this sanctuary, feeling its protection and beauty.
Feel the protection this space offers you.
It is time for you to return to your day now. As your breathing brings you to now, carry the safety and calm of your sanctuary with you.
Know that you can return to this space whenever you choose.
Tune into your breathing now.
Peace be with you.
Is your life overcrowded and cluttered? Add Self-Care!
Do you ever somehow find yourself in a place where you know you need to get back to your basic self. Things remind you it’s time to return yourself to your heart.
These reminders may include fatigue, anxiety, insomnia, loneliness, burnout, or foggy thinking.
You wake up one day, or a moment in one day, realizing that you are spending 80% of your time scanning, scrolling, downloading, and editing. And you’re spending only 20% of your time processing all those things you’ve been inputting.
Or maybe you are spending 80% of your time frantically chasing tasks which have no meaning for you but are on the “necessary list” anyway.
Alas, it’s the old 80-20 law at work again. The essential processing is getting 20% of your focus and the scanning and scrolling are getting 80%.
There ARE things you can do to help you find your heart.
Try self-care. Self-care can be magical because it comes from inside yourself where you process important things better.
Suddenly, the 20% takes on renewed color and shape and form as it becomes the center-stage activity it should have been all along.
But, where do you begin? Begin with intention. Whatever you choose for your self-care therapy, if you begin with intention, inspiration will follow.
So, how do you start this new project?
Begin with trust. Trust that your intuition will inspire you to know what is calling you. Your intuition will allow you to try different things and focus on what appeals to you. Self-care can be many different things. It can be one thing.
As you begin to explore self-care, allow yourself to respond to what appeals to you. Let your heart guide you to what you need.
Let’s say that you are attracted to essential oils. Or, maybe you always wanted to begin a meditation practice. These two options can be followed one at a time or together.
The important thing is that you listen to what is calling to you.
Whatever self-care tools you explore and use, you connect to your body to support your spiritual, mental, and emotional self.
One good beginning option is to create a daily movement ritual. The options are many here: dance, walking, massage, reflexology, Reiki, exercise, stretches.
When you choose a movement practice, you connect with your body and build a relationship with your power.
This daily movement ritual promotes gratitude. It builds resilience and inspires your creativity. You will set your endorphins free! You will serve those around you better.
You will build a relationship with your power. Joy and mood stability become part of the package.
But, whatever self-care journey you explore, there is no perfect way to explore the options. Use what calls to you. Maybe you seek something which feels comfortable to you. Whatever calls to you, allow yourself to explore whatever feels natural to you.
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You can learn more information about self-care from earlier blog posts. She discusses self-care in her three books “A Healer’s Handbook”
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Thurman discusses self-care techniques with guests on “Let’s Live with Thurman Greco” on YOUTUBE
